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How to Discipline Your Kid A 3-Step System that Will Change Your Life

ACT instead of REact An Easy 3-Step Solution to Discipline


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    Marla Humphries
    November 8, 2016 at 11:18 pm

    Ashley, I am a proud grandmother of a two year old boy and this is a very happy and heartbreaking time for us as he is a twin -we lost his brother when they were 5 months old, which brings me to my point that we do not want to discipline him as much as we should. He keeps throwing everything he gets his hands on! Never had boys and don’t know what to do. For example : he drinks from his cup and then throws it, he eats food and then splits it out and throws it(he eats well) and it is just not when he eats it’s any and everything. We have taken all kinds of balls and he throws them and we have tried to explain this is what you throw, time out, pop the hand and other consequences but it does not phase him. Even tried the the three steps you suggested but to no avail. Need help!!

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      Ashley Soderlund Ph.D.
      November 9, 2016 at 1:16 pm

      Hi Marla,

      I am so sorry for your loss. It must be simultaneously amazing to watch your grandson grow and heartbreaking. Hopefully it will be a relief to hear that toddler throwing is very normal — I think more two year olds go through this than not. I find that when I am faced with a challenging behavior sometimes I try many different strategies, when really I should try one thing and be consistent. The three steps are probably advanced for this kind of toddler behavior — although I think you can still empathize. He is trying to communicate, play, or control the situation. Maybe try giving him some choices — which cup would you like, the red one or the blue one? Then if he does throw it — take it, put it in sight, but don’t give it back. If he protests say, you threw it away so you are all done. OR another strategy could be to ignore it. Whatever you chose, do it consistently and with empathy. Here are some great posts specifically about this that give some good ideas for strategies to try http://kidsactivitiesblog.com/83623/toddler-throws-thingshelp. http://www.toddlerapproved.com/2014/11/how-do-i-stop-my-toddler-from-throwing.html and

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