A great book can make an emotion, a problem, or situation that is abstract to your child, concrete, real, and most importantly, solvable. I talk more about how to use books to change your child’s behavior in this post, which also has links to positive book series for children at different ages. This post contains Amazon affiliate links. See my Policies for details.
Positive Behavior Book Series for 2 to 4-year-olds
The “Best Behavior Series” by Elizabeth Verdick is my favorite series for younger kids because it is realistic, yet has a gentle delivery. The message is simple — “Hands are not for hitting. What are hands for? Saying Hello. Drawing. Building.” For younger children this kind of message is great, it is simple, direct, concrete, and focused on what to do instead of what not to do. Included in the back two pages of the book are tips and strategies for parents. For example, in the Hands are Not for Hitting book, there are suggestions for redirecting frustrated energy, quick tips for reducing anger, and an example of how to intervene when a toddler hits (aff links).
Hands Are Not for Hitting (Board Book) (Best Behavior Series)Teeth Are Not for Biting (Board Book) (Best Behavior Series)Feet Are Not for Kicking (Board Book) (Best Behavior Series)Words Are Not for Hurting (Board Book) (Best Behavior Series)Tails Are Not for Pulling (Board Book) (Best Behavior Series)Voices Are Not for Yelling (Best Behavior)Diapers Are Not Forever (Board Book) (Best Behavior Series)Germs Are Not for Sharing (Board Book) (Best Behavior Series)
This next series,“Toddler Tools,” also by Elizabeth Verdick promotes positive behaviors in general — like listening, calming down, getting out the door, and naptime. Included in the back of the book are great tips. I got the Naptime book when my son started resisting his nap at age 2 — but yet, he still really needed it. It was great to have an objective book to turn to and we started using the language on a daily basis, I would ask him “Do you remember why we rest?”, which is a line from the book and he would answer something to the effect of what the book says: “I take a break from play to have a better day. I need a little rest so I can feel my best.” Another favorite of mine is On-the Go Time helpful for getting young kids out the door! Included on the back two pages of these books are additional tips for parents. Some of this series is more geared to classroom situations like Listening Time. My favorites for everyday parenting are listed below (aff links).
This next series by Michael Dahl are colorfully illustrated, short, and positive. In other words, just long enough to make the point but keep your toddler’s attention. These do give alternative behaviors but aren’t as instructive as the two series above. For example, in Little Dinos Don’t Push the text goes like this: “Don’t push your sister! Push a swing! Don’t push your Brother! Push your toy cars!” While I prefer saying “hands are not for hitting” instead of “don’t hit,” I do think this series can be a good for starting a conversation about these topics with younger toddlers who don’t have the attention span for the “Best Behavior Series” above or for toddlers who thrive on books which are a little more silly (aff links).
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The above series are great, but they don’t necessarily give concrete instructions on emotion regulation (the exception being Calm-Down Time). I LOVE the emotion-regulation strategies from Daniel Tiger. The writers do consult with child psychologists when coming yo with the strategies and there is some scientific evidence that watching this show promotes prosocial behavior. There is a good list of the learning goals for each show and related activities you can do with your child here. These I’m Feeling books build off the show’s learning goals and are a great addition to any young child’s library. I love all of these and I hope they come out with more, but the I’m feeling Silly is a favorite because it helps kids regulate excitement — a common issue, but as a positive emotion, one we are not well-equipped to teach our children how to handle (and now there is even an app for parents that you can use to cue up the song and the learning goal in any situation!) (aff links).
Those are my favorite Positive behavior series for 2 to 4-year-olds. For more suggestions for older children, see below. In the meantime happy reading!