About Me

Hi and Welcome!

I’m a mom, a daydreamer, a writer and a child development psychologist. Once upon a time, I thought I knew a lot about raising kids. Actually, that’s not quite true — I never felt like I knew a lot about parenting per se, but I did worry that I knew too much about development and what could go wrong.


When I became a parent would I worry about my child’s style of attachment to me, their temperament, whether they had signs of a language delay or some of the other things I had read about in my textbooks?

I studied kids and development for 15 years before having my own child and here’s what happened —

I did worry– but not about any of those things. I loved that little soul so much, that I knew no matter what challenges were ahead we would be okay — we would figure it out.

Instead, I worried about work-family balance and how I was doing as a mom. How could I be a great mom and be on the tenure-track at my Univeristy? How could I be there for my college students and for my baby boy? Why wasn’t he sleeping?  What is the best way to respond to tantrums? How can I gently guide his behavior and help him learn to manage his emotions? How can I get him to listen?

Don’t we all worry about these things?

I found myself constantly reading about parenting– research studies, blogs, books, — there is an overwhelming amount of information that barrages us as parents every day.

I realized a few key things those in those first years as a mother:

— There is a lot of information out there — too much— some of it good, some of it not so good.

— There is a lot of information that isn’t out there. Great techniques, ideas, and inspiration.

— College students, most of them, don’t love hearing about parenting, I needed a different audience!

— I may have a Ph.D. in child development, but I was (still am!) a work in progress as a parent.

I realized that my passion was parenting — I wanted to research it, write about it, talk about and focus on my own growth as a parent. I wanted to find like-minded parents so we could inspire each other and grow in our roles as parents together.

I quit my job and started this blog to pursue my passions– my family and being the best (imperfect) version of me I can be. Will you join me on this journey?

Join the Nurture and Thrive community by signing up for my monthly newsletter. I am so happy you are here and that together we can nurture our children and watch them thrive!

My pledge to you is to share the best information — the best parenting tips from research, parent coaches, my own experience, education, and things that have inspired me along the way to grow and develop as a mother right along side my son.

From Merriam Webster’s Dictionary:


transitive verb \ˈnər-chər\

: to help (something or someone) to grow, develop, or succeed

: to take care of (someone or something that is growing or developing) by providing food, protection, a place to live, etc.


intransitive verb \ˈthrīv\

: to grow or develop successfully : to flourish or succeed

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    May 5, 2015 at 9:00 am

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    Amanda Johnson
    May 10, 2017 at 9:13 pm

    I wish I had found you sooner, but I’m happy to be binge reading your blog posts now! :)) I am loving all of the game/toy ideas for kids, and I’m definitely going to try some this summer with my three. You have such great information here. I was looking for playroom ideas (that would be fun for 3, 5 and 7 year old kiddos) and have found so much more. Thanks!

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      Ashley Soderlund Ph.D.
      May 16, 2017 at 10:25 am

      Thank you so much Amanda! Its great to get this kind of feedback. Last summer we played so many games, it was a great way to fill summer afternoons.

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    August 7, 2017 at 9:39 am

    I really enjoyed reading your blog – the activities you talk about are great for reinforcing good behavior and teaching essential life skills. What do you think of reading books aloud to children? Have you studied the effects of that in your research? Everything I’ve seen points to huge benefits from simply reading to your children – chapter books, picture books, and basically everything, that’s appropriate of course.
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    October 1, 2017 at 7:35 pm

    Hi there!

    I have a question about the IKEA playroom desk/storage. What size table top did you use and did you have to modify it? I purchased the pieces however the table top is way too deep and hangs over the edge by about 6-8″. Our playroom has been in need of an overhaul for year and I think your IKEA idea is the solution!!

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      Ashley Soderlund Ph.D.
      October 1, 2017 at 9:13 pm

      Hi Christina,

      Exciting to redo your playroom! I’d love to see a picture! We used the plain white Linnmon table top, the longest one for our space. It does over hang, so we centered it. My sister did this same desk and in her space it worked better for them to build up a small stand behind the drawers (like a three sided box) and that way they could have the tabletop flush to the front of the drawers. You don’t see the stands, they simply are there to extend the space. Hope that helps!

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