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In psychology, there are four well-known parenting styles. Each style varies in where they fall on the spectrum of "control" and "responsiveness."⁠ ⁠

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Generally speaking, a balance of both is best -- a parent who sets limits and boundaries, but who is loving and warm too.

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The hallmark of authoritative parenting is that discipline does exist -- boundaries and consequences are clear and consistent -- but discipline is not punishment. ⁠

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Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer for having a problem. To raise problem solvers, focus on solutions, not retribution.

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It's important to notice that permissive parenting, which is high in responsiveness and low in control, is not the same thing as positive or gentle parenting.

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Limits and boundaries are part of positive or mindful parenting -- a big part -- but so are respect, love, and warmth.

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A balanced approach to parenting gives a child structure and boundaries and lots and lots of love. ⁠

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Research on parenting style, attachment, and resilience shows that again and again that a strong sense of security translates to children being able to go out into the world and try -- fail -- and try again. ⁠⁠

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Because they know that love and guidance waits for them. ⁠⁠

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4 Types of Parenting Styles in Developmental Psychology and Why It Matters

In psychology, there are four well-known parenting styles. Each style varies in where they fall on the spectrum of "control" and "responsiveness."⁠ ⁠

In psychology, there are four well-known parenting styles. Each style varies in where they fall on the spectrum of "control" and "responsiveness."⁠ ⁠

Generally speaking, a balance of both is best -- a parent who sets limits and boundaries, but who is loving and warm too.

Generally speaking, a balance of both is best -- a parent who sets limits and boundaries, but who is loving and warm too.

⁠This is the authoritative parenting style.

⁠This is the authoritative parenting style.

The hallmark of authoritative parenting is that discipline does exist -- boundaries and consequences are clear and consistent -- but discipline is not punishment. ⁠

The hallmark of authoritative parenting is that discipline does exist -- boundaries and consequences are clear and consistent -- but discipline is not punishment. ⁠

Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer for having a problem. To raise problem solvers, focus on solutions, not retribution.

Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer for having a problem. To raise problem solvers, focus on solutions, not retribution.

-L.R. Knost

-L.R. Knost

It's important to notice that permissive parenting, which is high in responsiveness and low in control, is not the same thing as positive or gentle parenting.

It's important to notice that permissive parenting, which is high in responsiveness and low in control, is not the same thing as positive or gentle parenting.

Limits and boundaries are part of positive or mindful parenting -- a big part -- but so are respect, love, and warmth.

Limits and boundaries are part of positive or mindful parenting -- a big part -- but so are respect, love, and warmth.

A balanced approach to parenting gives a child structure and boundaries and lots and lots of love. ⁠

A balanced approach to parenting gives a child structure and boundaries and lots and lots of love. ⁠

Research on parenting style, attachment, and resilience shows that again and again that a strong sense of security translates to children being able to go out into the world and try -- fail -- and try again. ⁠⁠

Research on parenting style, attachment, and resilience shows that again and again that a strong sense of security translates to children being able to go out into the world and try -- fail -- and try again. ⁠⁠

Because they know that love and guidance waits for them. ⁠⁠

Because they know that love and guidance waits for them. ⁠⁠

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4 Types of Parenting Styles in Developmental Psychology and Why It Matters