10 Ways to Stop Yelling At Your Kids

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Don’t criticize. It is okay that you feel stressed when your child has a tantrum. Breathe through your feelings.

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In fact, don’t react — respond. Root into the earth and breathe. This is a habit you can build over time.

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This will remind you of your commitment to speak to your child in a way that is respectful.

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This serves two purposes — first, it reminds you of your reason for wanting to stop yelling.

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Second, language engages our logical brain and can calm our own response.

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Learn to separate your child underlying emotions and impulses from their behavior.

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The self-regulation system develops throughout childhood. How you respond to their distress helps to shape that system.

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And it also means that they their ability to regulate emotions is still very much under construction.

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10 Ways to Stop Yelling At Your Kids

Instead Coach Them Through Emotions

Don’t criticize. It is okay that you feel stressed when your child has a tantrum. Breathe through your feelings.

1. Learn to tune into your emotions and accept them!

@drashleysoderlund

In fact, don’t react — respond. Root into the earth and breathe. This is a habit you can build over time.

2. Pause before you react

@drashleysoderlund

This will remind you of your commitment to speak to your child in a way that is respectful.

3. Use a Mantra or a phrase

@drashleysoderlund

This serves two purposes — first, it reminds you of your reason for wanting to stop yelling.

3. Use a Mantra or a phrase

@drashleysoderlund

Second, language engages our logical brain and can calm our own response.

3. Use a Mantra or a phrase

@drashleysoderlund

Learn to separate your child underlying emotions and impulses from their behavior.

4. Realize all behavior is communication.

@drashleysoderlund

The self-regulation system develops throughout childhood. How you respond to their distress helps to shape that system.

5. Remember that your child’s brain is not mature!

@drashleysoderlund

And it also means that they their ability to regulate emotions is still very much under construction.

5. Remember that your child’s brain is not mature!

@drashleysoderlund

@drashleysoderlund

10 Ways to Stop Yelling At Your Kids

Instead Coach Them Through Emotions