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Positive Behavior Book Series for 8 to 13-year-olds

Books to teach kids how to regulate their behavior and their emotions! Positive Behavior Book Series for 8 to 13-year-olds

A great book can make an emotion, a problem, or situation that is abstract to your child, concrete, real, and most importantly, solvable. I talk more about how to use books to change your child’s behavior in this post, which also has links to positive book series for younger children.

Books to teach kids how to regulate their behavior and their emotions! Positive Behavior Book Series for 8 to 13-year-olds

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For older children, books need to still be specific, but also more nuanced in terms of emotions and how to handle situations. Just because they are older doesn’t mean they know how to handle their emotions — yes the days of the 3-year-old tantrums are over — but this is replaced by feelings that are deeper and more complex, and hence, more difficult to understand. Pair this with social relationships and situations that are more complicated and you can easily have a child who is having difficulty working a situation out — like we all do from time to time. With an older child it is sometimes hard to know how to guide them through these complex situations — sometimes we don’t know how to do this in our own lives. These two series are great because they are really more like guidebooks for parents and children to work through together.

Positive Behavior Book Series for 8 to 13-year-olds

Books about Feelings for Older Kids Emotions and feelings change a lot during the pre-teen years. These books from Mary C. Lamira, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, uses research and practical examples to help older children understand complex emotions. Emotions, Making Sense of Your Feelings is actually geared to 12 to 15-year-olds. It covers anxiety, fear, embarrassment, guilt, shame, pride, loneliness, sadness and sad love, envy and the complexity of happiness.  Understanding Myself: A Kid’s Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings is geared to 9 to 12-year-olds and uses quizzes and fun facts boxes to help children understand their internal world of emotions. Both of these books go through how to handle emotions when they feel out of control, the function behind emotions, and understanding emotions as a part of our life.

Emotions!: Making Sense of Your FeelingsEmotions!: Making Sense of Your FeelingsUnderstanding Myself: A Kid's Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong FeelingsUnderstanding Myself: A Kid’s Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings

How To Get Unstuck From The Negative Muck by Lake sullivan Ph.D. is timely for preteens. At this stage of development, emotions can feeling overwhelming. Especially negative emotions. One of the skills that is important to learn is how to stop repetative thoughts, that negative voice in your head. This book offers healthy ways to cope with negative thoughts drawn from cognitive psychology. There are also journal exercises, a proven technique to resolves emotions. The second book listed is a guided journal that follows along with the book. 

How To Get Unstuck From The Negative Muck: A Kid's Guide To Getting Rid Of Negative ThinkingHow To Get Unstuck From The Negative Muck: A Kid’s Guide To Getting Rid Of Negative ThinkingHow To Get Unstuck From The Negative Muck JournalHow To Get Unstuck From The Negative Muck Journal

Laugh and Learn by Elizabeth Verdick and others, who authored two of the series I recommend for younger children. This series gets much more in-depth for older children and goes through how to recognize the emotion, gives plenty of examples of when you may feel that emotion, and walks through emotion management tips. For example, in “How to Take the Grrrr out of Anger,” kids are taught to recognize anger, how to handle situations and emotions that underly anger like loneliness, guilt, frustration, and fear, and how to manage that anger and resolve conflicts both in person and online. These books also use humor to make it more fun — this can help make heavy topics feel light-hearted (aff links).

How to Take the Grrrr Out of Anger (Laugh & Learn)How to Take the Grrrr Out of Anger (Laugh & Learn)Dude, That's Rude!: (Get Some Manners) (Laugh & Learn)Dude, That’s Rude!: (Get Some Manners) (Laugh & Learn)Bullying Is a Pain in the Brain (Laugh & Learn®)Bullying Is a Pain in the Brain (Laugh & Learn®)Stress Can Really Get on Your Nerves! (Laugh & Learn)Stress Can Really Get on Your Nerves! (Laugh & Learn)Siblings: You're Stuck with Each Other, So Stick Together (Laugh & Learn)Siblings: You’re Stuck with Each Other, So Stick Together (Laugh & Learn)See You Later, Procrastinator! (Get It Done) (Laugh & Learn series)See You Later, Procrastinator! (Get It Done) (Laugh & Learn series)Get Organized Without Losing It (Laugh & Learn®)Get Organized Without Losing It (Laugh & Learn®)How to Do Homework Without Throwing Up (Laugh & Learn®)How to Do Homework Without Throwing Up (Laugh & Learn®)

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American Girl, Care and Keeping Series and the Smart Girls Series started with the Keeping and Care of You: The Body Book for 8-year-olds and up, which was followed with the Keeping and Care of Feelings. There is a version for older girls as well, The Care and Keeping of You 2: The Body Book for Older Girls. There are several books related to this series and it gets amazing reviews. I am listing the popular ones for the age group 8 to 12 here. All of the books are written by or in consultation with professionals, pediatricians and psychologists, these books offer good information for young girls.

The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Younger Girls, Revised EditionThe Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Younger Girls, Revised EditionThe Feelings Book (Revised): The Care and Keeping of Your EmotionsThe Feelings Book (Revised): The Care and Keeping of Your EmotionsYour Happiest You: The Care & Keeping of Your Mind and SpiritYour Happiest You: The Care & Keeping of Your Mind and SpiritA Smart Girl's Guide: Friendship Troubles (Revised): Dealing with fights, being left out & the whole popularity thingA Smart Girl’s Guide: Friendship Troubles (Revised): Dealing with fights, being left out & the whole popularity thingStand Up for Yourself & Your Friends: Dealing with Bullies & Bossiness and Finding a Better WayStand Up for Yourself & Your Friends: Dealing with Bullies & Bossiness and Finding a Better WayA Smart Girl's Guide: Worry: How to Feel Less Stressed and Have More FunA Smart Girl’s Guide: Worry: How to Feel Less Stressed and Have More Fun

What to Do Guides for Kids series is also excellent. This series is published by the American Psychological Association and Magination Press. I love these guides because they are very interactive. These books are really workbooks designed for parents and children to work through together — empowering you to help your child work through difficult emotions or situations. This series is written by clinical psychologists who guide parents and children through cognitive-behavioral techniques to help them work through difficult emotions like anger, anxiety, negativity, and more. The tone of these books are always encouraging and motivating (aff links). 

What to Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Problems With Anger (What to Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Problems With Anger (What to Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety (What to Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety (What to Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When You Grumble Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Negativity (What to Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When You Grumble Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Negativity (What to Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming OCD (What-to-Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming OCD (What-to-Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When You Feel Too Shy: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Social Anxiety (What-to-Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When You Feel Too Shy: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Social Anxiety (What-to-Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When Mistakes Make You Quake: A Kid's Guide to Accepting Imperfection (What-to-Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When Mistakes Make You Quake: A Kid’s Guide to Accepting Imperfection (What-to-Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When It's Not Fair: A Kid's Guide to Handling Envy and Jealousy (What-to-Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When It’s Not Fair: A Kid’s Guide to Handling Envy and Jealousy (What-to-Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When Bad Habits Take Hold: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Nail Biting and More (What to Do Guides for Kids)What to Do When Bad Habits Take Hold: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Nail Biting and More (What to Do Guides for Kids)

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I hope these tools can help you teach your child positive behaviors and give them the life skills they need to navigate this sometimes messy world! Do you have any favorite books that teach positive behaviors? Perhaps stories that do this in a more nuanced way? I am always looking for new resources, so please comment below!

For more suggestions for younger children, see below. In the meantime happy reading!

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